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June 18, 2020 at 8:42 am in reply to: Hand gestures – Do they add or detract from your speech? #27149
JavierModeratorI like to use hand gestures. As long as you don’t look like one of those inflatable wacky waiving tube guys that you normally see at the car dealer lots, it’s preferable speak without moving a single finger, like a statue. When you use hand gestures, you move yourself a little bit, you sound much more natural, and it clearly distracts youb from the stutter fears.
JavierModeratorI hope they meant tto say it in a good way too hahahaha
JavierModeratorHahahaha, I loved that story. I must admit that I’ve only used the accent Crutch a few times, but it is very true that when you use it, you don’t stutter, and it’s a lot of fun for all of us. I have to use it more often
JavierModeratorWhen I was in university, I had one teacher who was really passionate about the stuff he was teaching, and he also spoke pretty well (following all or almost all the steps to Speak like a King), so all of us really enjoyed his classes. I actually got one of the highest grades of the class. A couple of years later, I had a different teacher, teaching basically the same thing as the other one, but obviously on a more advanced level. She spoke really quickly, always facing the blackboard, not us, and all she did is to explain what she was righting, in a monotone, and rather quickly. None of us were able to understand what she was explaining. I managed to pass the exam, but the % of failures was a lot higher. Guess why….
Speaking like a King not only helps us speak fluently, but it also helps us be better speakers. Our listeners will understand us way better, and if we add to that a bit of enthusiasm, people will enjoy speaking with us a lot more. If we do this when we’re at work, this can only help us succeed. Our clients will like us more. Our boss will surely feel that enthusiasm as well.JavierModeratorSure! Let me know!
By the way, you were on the SpeechMastersClub Talk in which certified hypnotist Monica spoke about this subject, weren’t you? I found it very interesting!!June 18, 2020 at 8:10 am in reply to: Do you stutter more when you speak in another language? #27144JavierModeratorI agree with you. I think that when we speak in a second language our fear of saying something incorrectly increases (because we don’t have such a wide vocabulary as in our mother tongue), and this makes us stutter more. I stopped caring about this a while ago. In most cases, even though I might make a grammar mistake or something similar, people will understand me. And if this is not the case, I will explain myself again with different words.
JavierModeratorVery true, Tasneem! I’ve used that trick quite a lot! If we fear that we might have problems saying a certain word, what we have to do is avoid saying it. If there is no choice, well, Lee Lovett shows us several ways to do it without stuttering (Crutches)
JavierModeratorThe damn phone!! I used to hate it, so I tried to use as many tricks/Crutches when I had to use it.
Even now, before speaking to strangers, I try to smile, and it helps a lot. Being enthusiastic is also of great help.
Whenever I go to a bar or a restaurant, I do it with a smile on my face and try to be as friendly as possible with the waiter. Now, they all greet me in a really friendly way whenever I go to these places (even if I’ve only been twice) hahaha. Sometimes I even get invited to a beer or two 😉
JavierModeratorWhen I read Lee’s book and reached the section about self-hypnosis, Lee said that self-hypnosis (SH) is like auto-suggestions (AS) on steroids, because it reaches the subconscious mind directly, without having to go through the conscious mind (a filter). So I decided to give it a try, and I got Melvin Power’s book, “A practical Guide to Selfhypnosis”. SH is not that difficult, and its not dangerous at all. You are always aware of what’s happening around you. It’s just that you’re really relaxed, which is actually a great feeling. But the main reason I choose SH over AS is that it is a lot more intense, but it takes a few tries to learn SH. It took me like 2-3 weeks to see the effects of SH since I first began to do it, most likely because I was learning how to “get under”.
Give it a try! Melvin Power’s book is really short, and he explains it very clearly.JavierModeratorThat is very true, Tasneem. Actually, one of the PWS I’m currently coaching is about to stop stuttering mainly thanks to this Crutch by itself.
It is a great Crutch, and I use it every day, to improve my speech (of course, it has saved me a million times from stuttering). It keeps you calm, you speak more clearly, people understand you way better. And especially when you’re at work, in a meeting, giving a presentation, etc, the people you are speaking to will appreciate it.Have you notices that normally, at school, college, etc., our best teachers are the ones who speak like this (because we understand them much better)? And the ones we liked the least are the ones who spoke really quickly, without pausing, like a machine gun? (and therefore it was quite hard for us to understand what they were teaching)
JavierModeratorI find it extremely effective, Tasneem. I remember using this Crutch before making a phone call (I used to stutter even more when speaking on the phone), and it made it so much easier. Smiling before and during the phone call, and repeating my affirmations mentally, until the other person answered the phone has helped me a lot.
May 24, 2020 at 3:21 pm in reply to: Saludos! Mi nombre es Javier (Forum in Spanish and/or English) #27014JavierModerator¡Hola Brian!
Hay varias formas de contactar conmigo. Este foro es una de ellas, y posiblemente la más idónea, porque si tu pregunta está relacionada con el habla, seguramente hayan muchas personas con tu misma duda, y por lo tanto la respuesta que te aporte les pueda servir a ellos también.
Si has empezado, por ejemplo, el curso “Stuttering & Anxiety Self-Cures”, tienes una sesión de coaching gratuita, que puedes tener conmigo si asà lo deseas. Además, yo mismo he traducido al español el libro de “Stuttering & Anxiety Self-Cures”. Lo puedes encontrar en esta misma página web.
No obstante, te he mandado un email ahora mismo. De modo que si por motivos de privacidad prefieres que nos comuniquemos por esta vÃa, no tienes más que responder a mi email.¡Que tengas un buen domingo!
¡Un saludo!Coach Javier
JavierModeratorHi Ken, I began stuttering when I was around 4 years old, and I stopped stuttering at the age of 29, more or less 1 year ago.
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