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JavierModeratorHello Sam. First of all, welcome to World Stop Stuttering Association. My name is Javier, I live in Madrid (Spain), and I’m one of the certified coaches here. I’ve been a severe stutterer, and last year I became a PWSS.
There is a list of affirmations in the stuttering book (“Stuttering & Anxiety Self-cures”), in Section 8.10, “Examples of Auto-Suggestions”, that will surely help you.The main idea here is that the subconscious mind is always awake, it is always listening, even when we sleep. So the idea is to listen repeatedly to a recording of your Auto-suggestion treatment, in your voice, for around 6-8 hours. It has to be played at a volume high enough to be heard, but low enough so that it won’t wake you up. You would also be hearing yourself speaking fluently for hours, which also helps.
I highly recommend you to read the book and do the complete online course about that book. It will help you understand the book and our method. You can also watch videos of our coaching sessions in the Video Section of this website. I’m sure you will share some of the problems of these other PWS, so these sessions should also help you. You can filter them in many ways until you find the most suitable ones.
There is also a lot of useful information here, in the forum, and the blog. Every week we celebrate a meeting, on Saturdays. This week I’m going to be the speaker, and I’ll be speaking about auto-suggestions precisely. Feel free to come. You will be meeting the coaches and other PWS/PWSS.
Hope this helps!
JavierModeratorHi Richard! It’s great to have you here. We’ve met before in one of the SAM meetings, Lee introduced us. I also translated Lee’s book to Spanish, and we exchanged a few emails when I began with the translation. Hope to see you in one of our weekly SAM meetings. Have a great week!
October 11, 2020 at 11:26 am in reply to: How do you get used to speaking and sounding completely different? #27910JavierModeratorPractice makes perfect.
Focus 100% on those emotions, on speaking more slowly and holding the tone, and other Crutches. You can do it!! It’s a matter of determination and patience.October 11, 2020 at 11:19 am in reply to: How do you get used to speaking and sounding completely different? #27908JavierModeratorMany people have told me the same thing. It’s just that you’re still not used to it, it’s “something new” for you. Try it several times, it’ll become easier and easier, and more and more natural. You’ll actually end up enjoying speaking.
JavierModeratoryeah, that, and making sure you don’t break the tone, you don’t interrupt it.
JavierModeratorHi Gábor,
Holding the tone is an extremely useful Crutch, and that severe stutterers are finding really helpful.
Lee came upon this Crutch when thinking why can stutterers (or 99% of them) sing without stuttering? Because they focus on their tone instead of the words.
So how does this Crutch work? Well, lets start by holding the tone, like singers do when they do a “vibrato”, but let’s take the vibrato. If we do this, we have a clean tone coming out of our mouth: “aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa”. You can do that, right? Ok, let’s put words on that tone. “AaaaaMyNameisGábor”. As long a we don’t hesitate and interrumpt the tone, or airflow, we won’t stutter. But we can’t do this with long sentences or we’ll run out of air and we’ll get more nervous. We need to do it in short bursts.
It is like a combination of Crutches 4+10.You can go to the video Sectionof this website, and do a filtered search: go to the “tags” and select “holding the tone”. You’ll find coaching sessions and you’ll see how we explain how it works. Hope this helps!
JavierModeratorFears take longer to disappear, but we can also get rid of those. Celebrating every time we avoid a bad incident, every time we use a Crutch, expanding little by little our comfort zones…
Mind training, auto-suggestions are extemely important here. Once you become a PWSS, Gábor, I recommend you to read and do the online course of “Speech Anxiety to Public Speaking”. It’s like the next step to the Stuttering bookJavierModeratorI used to stutter a lot more with strangers. As a PWS I never had a stutter-free zone that wasn’t being alone.
Now, I sometimes have more fears in certain situations, and they make me feel more uncomfortable, so I have to concentrate more on using the Crutches, and on exaggerating them. I think exaggeration is key.
But I know that these fears will disappear. They are actually getting weaker and weaker, and less and less frequent each day.JavierModeratorThat’s a good one, Cindy! We tend to speak faster when we’re under pressure, and that makes it even worse.
JavierModeratorCrutch 11 is extremely useful. I particularly like C-4 and C-10 (including holding the tone). Crutch 9 is also very helpful. I guess it depends on the situation…
JavierModeratorI think I get your point, Gábor. There might be people who can be successful in their job, and live a happy life, but I’m completely sure that they could be much happier if they didn’t stutter. Nobody likes to stutter. It’s really uncomfortable, even humiliating. So nobody likes that, not even the people surrounding us. I can say that having stopped stuterring has not only turned me into a happier person, my family are also happier. They have suffered stuttering, indirectly.
JavierModeratorI fully agree with both of you. Unfortunately, there are plenty of people who confuse causes with consecuences when it comes to stuttering, even in the medical community…
JavierModeratorExactly! Before I found Lee’s book, I thought I would be stuttering all my life, but that’s because I didn’t know that I could actually find a way to become a PWSS. So I had to accept the situation, although I didn’t like it at all. Once I found Lee’s book, I knew that I could become a PWSS, just like many others did, and so I did.
JavierModeratorYou will get there, Gábor! Many people have achieved this, so you can also do it. People usually stop stuttering in a couple of months. Some take longer, some others do it in a month or so. I stopped stuttering in around 8 months. But some of the people I’ve coached have done it in 5 weeks. But the fears take longer to disappear, but they also disappear.
JavierModeratorI don’t see the problem with the word either…. As you know, I became a PWSS more than one year ago, and I consider myself cured. There are still things I want to improve, true, as we will never be perfect. Nobody ever will.
But here’s some proof of that I’m cured. 10 minutes ago I was driving home, and a couple, 20 meters away who were taking the dogs for a walk, said to me, “hello Javier!”. At first I couldn’t recognise who they were, it was dark, but a few seconds later I did: some friends of my family, and I haven’t seen them in ages, although they were aware of the improvements on my speech. They were amazed when they heard me speak. So yes, I am cured. I had a speech impediment. Now I don’t. -
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