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Have you tried buyinig a humidifier? (I’m not sure if it’s called like this in English…. it’s a device that makes the place more humid) They are not expensive, and they sell it in Amazon, for example. They might help you with that. The city where I live it, the air is very dry, especially in Summer, and my throat really notices it.
JavierModeratorWell, the ones about speaking fluently, I guess they mean that something’s changing in your mind, and that’s fantastic. Keep it up! The stuttering dreams will disappear very soon. And I’d recommend you to do an AST every time you have one of those.
JavierModeratorwow, I’m not sure about how to categorise that, but I’d say no…. But in any case, one thing you can do is to do an AST after waking up from that dream. Never forget that you are the boss of your mind. Don’t let anyone or anything try to take that control from you.
JavierModeratorHi Estefan,
about what you said to Leah/Tasneem about experiencing hoarseness after reading aloud for 1-2 hours, this also happened to me. I remember days that I was more anxious, with more stuttering fears, and what I did to overcome that was to read aloud for 1 or 2 hours straight, using the Crutches while doing so, and just like you said, I began experiencing hoarseness, so what I did was to continue reading aloud in a whisper. Your brain will “hear” your voice just as well if you read in a whisper. And that’s what I did.
When I was about to become a PWSS, I had the worst sore throat of my life. I had no voice for one entire month. I even wnet to th doctor, and they prescribed me with antibiotics. So during that month, I continued reading aloud and speaking in a whisper. I couldn’t speak any louder. At that time, it was the most fluent month of my life, thanks to that Crutch precisely (Crutch 7!December 2, 2020 at 12:59 pm in reply to: Do you guys think that as PWS/PWSS, we can ever truly love public speaking? #28361JavierModeratorAs a PWSS I firmly agree that you can love to speak (why not??). But as a PWS, I guess it depends on the severity of your problem. I used to hate it. But I’ve known some very mild cases who didn’t care about their stutter, as it did not interfere with what he wanted to say and momentum.
JavierModeratorAbout sign language, unless the other person we’re speaking too understands this language, I don’t think they will understand us.
Instead of that, I prefer to use hand gestures to be more passionate. When using hand gestures, I actually focus on my hand movements, and that helps me a lot.About what you said about memories, Adam, I try to visualize myself speaking flawlessly in various situations, and that helps a lot. For example, if I’m about to make a phone call, I try to visualize myself speaking the way I just said in that inminent situation, and I must say it is really helpful.
Actually lots of atheletes do this before a competition.JavierModeratorHi Estefan,
I even used to get up 30 minutes earlier than usual to do my first self-hypnosis treatment. I still do it, and I don’t regret it at all.
At work, I hada post-its all over my desk and screen of my computer reminding me to speak like a King and other Crutches. If at that moment I was alone, I would read aloud all my emails and things I normally have to read. If I was with other people, I’d do it in a whisper to avoid disturbing them.
At home, instead of watching TV or doing nothing, I got a book and started reading aloud and practice with the Crutches.
When exercising , or walking to my office, in the supermarket, when exercising, I would say my auto-suggestions or listen to the recordings of those instead of music.
I admit that listening to the recordings at night tends to affect your sleep, so what I did some days instead was listening to those while working (maybe for 5 or 6 hours).What can I say… It became my nº1 priority, and I don’t regret it. It has changed my life. The thing is that you can do most of these things while you do what you usually did.
JavierModeratorLet us know about your progress, Gábor.
Whispering is a very useful Crutch, but not too many people use it unfortunately.JavierModeratorWhat we’re saying, Adam, is that if somebody doesn’t follow the instructions, well don’t expect any improvement. If you don’t even give it a try, well, then don’t say it doesn’t work…
That’s why it is very important to firstly believe that you can stop stuttering. The second step is, logically, to start applying the method.JavierModeratorHi Gábor. In this case, I prefer to use the same affirmations (“the most repeated thought becomes the predominant one”), but I guess (I’m not an expert) that you can also express the same idea with different words.
But if everytime you do an AST you say different ideas, then they won’t be as effective as the way I mentioned at the beggining of this message.
I hope I explained myself clearly… Repetition is one of the most important things with ASTs, not only in one AST, but in ALL ASTs (you can make slight changes nonetheless).JavierModeratorthanks for those kind words, Leah. I try to improve every day,. no matter how good I already am. That’s one of the things that I’ve learnt from Lee’s books, and that’s one of the good things of stuttering, and why now I consider it a blessing. Because I’ve learnt mind training techniques, the Crutches (they also improve my speech, not only help me avoid having bad incidents), and read (aloud too) a lot of books, and I’m always trying to find new ways of improving myself, learn new things, be as loving as I can, reject negative thoughts of all kinds….
I doubt I would be doing all these things if I didn’t found Lee and WSSA.JavierModeratorhahahaha, and we continue to improve day after day 🙂
JavierModeratorIf we don’t believe we can actually do it, we will never do it. If the mind denies it, since the problem is 100% psychological, there’s not much that can be done in that case.
On the other hand, if we believe we can do it, we will eventually do it!JavierModeratorThe more we stutter, the more of a habit it becomes. In my case, I began stuttering at age 5 or 6, for whatever reason, I don’t remember what caused it, but it triggered my anxiety and my fears of stuttering again. And that’s precisely what happened. And my stuttering began to get worse and worse, until I actuallyn forgot how to speak fluently. I only knew how to speak stuttering, and for whatever reason, I could speak fluently when alone. Now I know the reason: when I’m alone, there’s no pressure, there’s nobody “to judge my speech” (I was too much of a perfectionist, and that’s a problem).
So I had to unlearn a habit of around 25 years…. It took time, but I did it.So yeah, if Colin Firth, in order to learn how to speak stuttering, I’m sure he had to practice it for countless hours and days, so it must have kind of become a habit for him. And it takes time to unlearn a habit.
JavierModeratorThat’s true, I also used to speak like you just described, Gábor. And that also applies to most of the PWS that I coach.
If we want to get different results (fluency), we must do something different, and that is precisely what you said: speak like a King/Queen, passionately and with feelings, inserting pauses, with extreme pronunciation….. -
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