Speaking like a King/Queen

[Anonymous]

How many of you notice that when you speak like a King/Queen, people pay more attention to you and seem to be more interested in what you have to say? Do you also feel that you come across as more confident when speaking slowly, softly, with pauses? I feel more in control of my whole life when I make a conscious effort to speak that way all of the time.

[Javier]

That is very true, Tasneem. Actually, one of the PWS I’m currently coaching is about to stop stuttering mainly thanks to this Crutch by itself.
It is a great Crutch, and I use it every day, to improve my speech (of course, it has saved me a million times from stuttering). It keeps you calm, you speak more clearly, people understand you way better. And especially when you’re at work, in a meeting, giving a presentation, etc, the people you are speaking to will appreciate it.

Have you notices that normally, at school, college, etc., our best teachers are the ones who speak like this (because we understand them much better)? And the ones we liked the least are the ones who spoke really quickly, without pausing, like a machine gun? (and therefore it was quite hard for us to understand what they were teaching)

[Anonymous]

You know, I actually never thought about that. Now that you have made me think about it, I STRONGLY DISLIKED my maths teacher. I mean she was not a bad person, she just did not know how to teach. I think she knew maths so well that she just bolted through the work assuming everyone could just keep up. And I loooooooved Afrikaans because my Afrikaans teacher spoke so eloquently and it just made her come across as very warm, and to this day I can speak the basics of Afrikaans because she taught it so well. Weird how this works!

Also, I find that people take you a lot more seriously when you speak slowly. I remember the day I watched myself back on a video and cringed at how fast I was speaking! I wondered how anyone ever understood me throughout my whole life! lol

[Javier]

When I was in university, I had one teacher who was really passionate about the stuff he was teaching, and he also spoke pretty well (following all or almost all the steps to Speak like a King), so all of us really enjoyed his classes. I actually got one of the highest grades of the class. A couple of years later, I had a different teacher, teaching basically the same thing as the other one, but obviously on a more advanced level. She spoke really quickly, always facing the blackboard, not us, and all she did is to explain what she was righting, in a monotone, and rather quickly. None of us were able to understand what she was explaining. I managed to pass the exam, but the % of failures was a lot higher. Guess why….
Speaking like a King not only helps us speak fluently, but it also helps us be better speakers. Our listeners will understand us way better, and if we add to that a bit of enthusiasm, people will enjoy speaking with us a lot more. If we do this when we’re at work, this can only help us succeed. Our clients will like us more. Our boss will surely feel that enthusiasm as well.

[Anonymous]

Also, have you noticed that when you speak really fast, the other person in the conversation also speeds up their speech, and then the conversation just feels so rushed and not as enjoyable? I tend to mimic the speech speed of the person that I am speaking to. Does anybody else do this, or am I the only one?

[Gábor]

I’ve never met a stutterer who spoke like a King/Queen, with passion & feelings, using (intentional) pauses and extreme pronunciation on (non-stuttered) words. Most of them (myself included) spoke in a monoton, emotionless voice.

[Javier]

That’s true, I also used to speak like you just described, Gábor. And that also applies to most of the PWS that I coach.
If we want to get different results (fluency), we must do something different, and that is precisely what you said: speak like a King/Queen, passionately and with feelings, inserting pauses, with extreme pronunciation…..

[Anonymous]

Many of my PWS tell me I speak with confidence. I do not think anybody would have said this about me 3 and a half years ago. So I definitely think that my speech has changed since I cured. For one, people no longer beg me to slow down while speaking, they actually understand what I am saying!

[Javier]

hahahaha, and we continue to improve day after day 🙂

[Anonymous]

Yes, Javie, in fact, watching you and Prathusha’s videos in the recent weeks has left me speechless. I do not think that I have ever heard you guys speak better than you have been. As long as we keep working on ourselves, we will improve every day. It does not matter how long we have been cured for, there is always room to improve our speech! I reckon in a couple of years I will finally speak at the rate of a normal person.

[Javier]

thanks for those kind words, Leah. I try to improve every day,. no matter how good I already am. That’s one of the things that I’ve learnt from Lee’s books, and that’s one of the good things of stuttering, and why now I consider it a blessing. Because I’ve learnt mind training techniques, the Crutches (they also improve my speech, not only help me avoid having bad incidents), and read (aloud too) a lot of books, and I’m always trying to find new ways of improving myself, learn new things, be as loving as I can, reject negative thoughts of all kinds….
I doubt I would be doing all these things if I didn’t found Lee and WSSA.

[Clifton]

Ditto what Javier is saying. I never would have known I could control my thoughts and improve my life to the extent I have without reading Lee’s book.

[Adam Werth]

26 or 27 yrs before I found Lovedude’s book..back in 1993……my resource teacher in 8th grade said it best…..

“Adam OVERCOMES his stuttering through a truly positive attitude and great sense of humor”……..

Case closed! Need I say more!!!! I rest my case! I was using a so called “crutch” 26 or 27 yrs before knowing what a crutch was….!!

I still remember making PHONE calls back in 7th and 8th grade in early 90’s with VERY little trouble…..without therapy at the time…………..

Maybe I was being spontaneous and not planning any words…….???

Maybe I didn’t give a rat’s (you know what!)……….I didn’t need Lovedude then!!!

[Gábor]

His name is Lovett and if you’ve found a better method and beat stuttering, good for you.

[Adam Werth]

I know his name–that’s my nickname for Lee!!

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