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September 10, 2020 at 8:30 am #27712AnonymousInactive
This question is for Javier and Prathusha. I often get asked by PWS how they can suddenly get used to this new style of speaking. Using the crutches, speaking slowly, like a King/Queen, inserting pauses, many times, it is drastically different from how a PWS is used to speaking.
There is no question that when using the crutches, we sound a hundred times better than if we continued stuttering, but it is definitely uncomfortable to speak in a way that is different to the past 10/20/30/40 years.
How do you suggest we deal with this issue?
September 10, 2020 at 11:10 am #27713JavierModeratorHi Taz! Great question!!
Well I used to stutter quite heavily, and I hated it. I watched videos of Lee coaching other people and explaining to him how to use the Crutches, and how they made that person speak fluently and immedaitely, so I wanted to do the same thing. I wanted to stop stuttering, and I didn’t care if if felt weird. I knew they mde me speak the way I wanted.
It’s the same as when we want to learn a new skill. It will always feel weird at the beginning, until we become good at it, and then it becomes second nature to us.If you’re beginning to use the Crutches, don’t feel discouraged for feeling this way. Continue practicing!! You just need to practice until you get better at it. Check that when you use them, you feel better, more relaxed, less anxious. That’s the strange feeling we’re talking about. You’ll get to love it, and to love using the Crutches. I use them even when I don’t need them, they make me feel more relaxed, in control, more confident.
October 11, 2020 at 6:45 am #27907GáborParticipantI have the same issue, especially with being expressive and using emotions in my speech. It feels too much and also feel that I’m “faking” something that I’m not.
October 11, 2020 at 11:19 am #27908JavierModeratorMany people have told me the same thing. It’s just that you’re still not used to it, it’s “something new” for you. Try it several times, it’ll become easier and easier, and more and more natural. You’ll actually end up enjoying speaking.
October 11, 2020 at 11:24 am #27909GáborParticipantYes, and even if it’s exaggerated, it’s still better than stuttering. I know that fact logically, but it’s still a bit hard to accept. And I also feel I’m pretending to be someone I’m really not – but I want to be that person who articulates and speak with passion. 🙂
October 11, 2020 at 11:26 am #27910JavierModeratorPractice makes perfect.
Focus 100% on those emotions, on speaking more slowly and holding the tone, and other Crutches. You can do it!! It’s a matter of determination and patience. -
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