October 11, 2020 at 7:17 pm #27913
I’d like to use this topic to share our small successes and victories with each other and inspire others.
Today, I talked on the phone with my mom. I tend to stutter badly with my closest family members (especially with my parents) and also during using the phone, but today, I was completely fluent. I had maybe one or two hesitations which I managed to overcome quickly.
My new favorite crutch is #8 and #9, because I’ve always talked in a monotonous, almost robotic voice and I was afraid to put emotions behind my words.October 13, 2020 at 9:57 am #27927
that’s fantastic, Gábor! Congratulations. Make sure to celebrate every time you say something fluently, even if it is a simple “good morning”. I used to do that, and it helps.
One of the things that helps me the most is slowing down. I enjoy speaking a lot more when I slow down.
And don’t forget that using the Crutches is not a failure. It’s the exact opposite. It’s a huge success! Why? Because thanks to them you managed to avoid a bad incident and therefore speak fluently, and most likely in the past you would have stuttered in that same situation! So celebrate it!!October 20, 2020 at 1:40 pm #27975
I’ve just had a 30 minutes work call from my manager and I think my speech was pretty decent with some smaller blocks and hesitations.October 26, 2020 at 12:15 pm #28028
This will continue to improve. Today it is a 30-minute conversation with your manager, tomorrow it will be an hour presentation in front of your whole department. That is the beauty of our methods, the speed at which you cure is how hard you are willing to work. We have had people completely cure within a couple of weeks and having just read the book.
What people do not understand is that curing is not a one-day thing. You will not read the book and be cured on the same day. It takes weeks of practica, and each day you will stutter less and less until the day you think to yourself “I have not stuttered in a month!”
Keep up your hard work and you will be cured within weeks!October 26, 2020 at 12:15 pm #28029
On this weekend I went out with some friends and had some beers. My perception was that I didn’t have any bad speech incidents during the evening, even under the influence of some alcohol. But I talked so much I had a sore throat on the next day. 🙂
In the past I was concerned if others will notice my fluency or not, but I realized that it’s only my own opinion about my speech that counts – if I feel I speak freely, that’s a huge success. And as we all know, speech usually only bothers us and others don’t even care if we’re fluent or not.October 26, 2020 at 3:31 pm #28034
Hi Gábor. It seems like your speech is continuing to improve, that’s awesome!! I agree with your opinion, and I would add to that, “…but I will continue trying to improve it”. Mainly because it will make us enjoy more all our conversations.October 28, 2020 at 9:31 pm #28068
Exactly! Your friends were probably so drunk, they did not hear anything you were saying anyway 🙂 Kidding. On a serious note, I am so proud of you!!! Nobody cares how we sound, and when we realize this, we take off so much pressure.
To this day, I do not care what people think about my speech and most people are so worried about how others perceive them, they have no time to analyze your speech or anything else about you!November 4, 2020 at 12:16 am #28117Anand KhemkaParticipant
I have begun to learn the course last month only.
I have recently given a Presentation in which even I was surprised at the amount of fluency.
It was like the mind was expecting to have blockages but I could speak with less stutter and be consciously aware that I am improving.
It is such a confidence booster.
Thank youNovember 4, 2020 at 8:39 am #28118
Hi Anand! That’s fantastic!! You’re on the right track, and you’re going to continue improving if you keep working on your speech. For preentations, Crutch 11 is one of the best, definitely. You can go to the Video Section of WSSA, and search coaching sessions with filters, and there’s one tag that is “presentations”. That should help you a lot, as the advice we give to a certain PWS might also help you.
There are also plenty of filters you can use, and there are +1000 videos, so you can learn a lot from them.
And of course, you can always get private coaching.November 4, 2020 at 9:26 am #28120
Ah, I remember my first presentation where I absolutely killed it. I could not wipe the smile off my face for days. Keep replaying this presentation in your mind, over and over, until you are sick of it! Your mind will remember how fluent you were the next time you do another presentation and you will be even MORE fluent.
You will keep getting more and more fluent with each presentation, until the day you wake up and you think “oh yes, I have a presentation today, I completely forgot about it”. Your speech will become something you do not even think about. Fluency will be your new life.
Great work!!!February 23, 2021 at 7:10 pm #28988
Two days ago I called up my new landlord and my speech was fine. I think using the phone isn’t that hard after all.February 24, 2021 at 8:07 am #28990
Gabor, I am absolutely STUNNED right now! The day has finally come. What has brought about this change in as little as over a week?
I AM SO PROUD OF YOU!!!February 24, 2021 at 3:32 pm #28999
Hi Gábor. Great job with that phone call. Remember that conversation the next time you have to make a phone call. Remember that, and realise that if you’ve been abel to do it, you can definitely repeat it, and even improve it!! You’re expanding that comfort zone!!April 26, 2021 at 9:20 am #29443
I just had my first online meeting at work, where I was the host, and it went well, thanks to crutch #13.April 26, 2021 at 10:23 am #29444John KerrParticipant
We’ll done, Gabor!
Every positive experience will reduce any fear of talking and you’ll grow in confidence.
Keep up the good work 🙂
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